eBay

Over the years I have sold numerous articles of clothing and accessories on eBay. Recently I was selling a pair of Orande’s sneakers and a buyer was very persistent. He would berate me with questions & comments constantly for days prior to him purchasing, during the shipment and after they were received. Of course the nightmare didn’t end there, supposedly the sneakers didn’t “fit” and although I don’t accept returns, due to this guy working my last nerve, I took on the return.

eBay has a return policy and it takes up to 7 days for the money to be returned to the buyer. During those days of waiting the now returner of the sneakers decided continue the badgering  within the emails to me. Now if I hadn’t read their policy I would’ve been questioning the wait myself. But my responses to the questions were in the range of, “have you read eBay’s return policy before asking me questions”?;  “Stop asking me questions and revert your attention to eBay’s customer service team as I have returned the payment”, and more such as this.

After my frustration tolerance level was reached, I called eBay to make sure this buyer could no longer buy anything from my page as well as no more emails. Sigh of relief right? I was done...almost.  Going back to my sellers page I noticed a new review. And wouldn’t you know that the buyer/returner left a bad review while the payment return was in the interim period? So rude.

As I was stewing from newfound review, I thought about how my score went way down from 100% due to this. I was angry that the buyer didn’t include the facts into the review to begin with. Now the old version of me a year ago or even a few months ago would have taken this extremely personal and read him for filth.  Instead I let it roll off my shoulders. Granted this is not always easy, then again we are all a work in progress. Having hold and accountability of your own power is liberating and not even an angry sneaker head could take it away. Try to make sure in any situation, you keep a vice grip on your power and don’t let anyone take you out of your element.  And if that person ever happens to come across my blog, you know what you did wrong and in the words of Birdman when you speak of me, “put some respeck on my name!”

In case any one needed a visual... 

Bangs

As I watched an episode of “Grownish” on demand, Chloé x Halle’s characters were in need of making extra income. One of the girls came into the scene with a band-aid on her eyebrow, when asked what happened she mentioned she tried to wax her own eyebrows and made a huge mistake. After I saw this scene I was reminded how I had my eyebrows and skin ripped off my face from my first college roommate. You may be asking yourself how that would even happen, so let me tell you.

Being 17 and in college at the time, I had very little money, even from my mailroom job at the school. My roommate told me she use to do hair and she knew how to wax from a salon she worked at back in her home state. I had/have thick eyebrows, so needing to maintain them was a must and I let her do it. Feeling how extremely hot the wax was, she assured me it’s normal and don’t worry.  She rips off the paper with my skin and eyebrow hairs attached to it. She did the same to the other eyebrow as well. After I was allowed to look in the mirror I screamed bloody murder and ran out. The next day I had a new hairdo...bangs. Between raw skin on the top and bottom of both eyebrows (or what was left of them), the bangs were a must. I also had burn marks because my friend, Greg, decided to torture me and apply alcohol to the ripped skin. Therefore, I channeled my inner Tootie and rocked those bangs like my skin wasn’t missing underneath.

Minimum wage should have been increased back then.  If I made more than $6 an hour in that mailroom, I would have been able to go to a professional and my eyebrows would still grow in certain areas.  I beg of you to never ever let a friend do your hair or eyebrows unless you can see pictures of their work. Granted who would do that nowadays since we live in “social media la la land”,  but you’d be surprised what desperation and eyebrows that grow like wildfire will make you do.

I didn’t have the whole haircut, but I cut some thick bangs like her. Only difference is mine covered where my eyebrows were. Thanks Tootie, for the inspiration.