Have you ever experienced one of those days where everything comes so easily that it seems you’re in a happy version of The Twilight Zone? It could be around anything such as you’re the first person in the laundromat, so you can sing and dance in there like no one is watching or you get the prime spot in yoga class and then walk outside and Pop Chips is giving away free chips on the corner- I can’t be the only one these situations have happened to. If you haven’t experienced a “cool-breeze” type of day then you need some energy work done, because something isn’t right.

Recently, I experienced this type of day. On a chilly NYC winter day, Orande and I decided to walk around and go to an early evening movie. So I started out my morning early with a great workout, afterwards I began what is usually an exhausting drawn out process of detangling, washing and deep conditioning my hair, but somehow on this particular day it went faster (I know my natural hair ladies get this on every level). My outfit decision was effortless and for once I was ready on time! We took the subway downtown, which came as soon as we arrived on the platform AND got my favorite seats- the corner pocket two-seater. At the movie theater, we secured prime recliner seats- can you feel magic? It gets better- after the movie we strolled around a bit and caught the “luxury” bus uptown, we say it’s luxury b/c it’s Coach-esque- think clean, plush, recliner seats versus the usual dirty MTA bus, and even though it usually takes about an hour to get home it took probably 35-40 minutes. We came to the conclusion that the since it was late at night, the driver must’ve been ending is his shift because he took short cuts and didn’t even stop at the mandatory stops to pick up other patrons. I guess that’s why he asked us as we got on what stop we were going to- we were close to the end of his route. When we got off Orande said “That was a fast ride bro”, the drivers response “Yea man- big bus, cab service.” Indeed it was cab service. To end this portion of the evening, we ordered pizza and it was delivered 10 min after we entered the house. Pretty prefect, am I right?

Like I said earlier, these days don’t have to be around anything specific and it doesn’t even have to be a full day of karmic happenings. Make it easy on yourself, like arriving to work on time- when you’re usually late or completing a task you thought would take you longer than expected. Sometimes you just have to have a different outlook on your day for it go flow a little easier for you. For me it’s all about my mindset. If I know I have something planned for the next day that I’m not fully into, I may already be frustrated going to sleep, which only plays into my mood when I wake up. Therefore, I’m expecting the day to be off-center because I’ve already put in my mind it’s going to be that way. I set myself up. Life and adulting are hard enough, so why put more angst on ourselves? Give yourself a break once and a while and let it the good times roll!

Alrighty folks, we’re going to get right to it and make this short and sweet. Let’s talk about the years 1981-1996 aka the millennial years. As an older member of the millennial generation, born proudly in 1984, I am able to say that I have had enough of the millennial shaming from anyone born prior to those years. Let’s all understand that there are degrees to millennial’s, we do not all think the same, we do not all have the same experiences or entitlement. So why do generations from the baby boomers (1946-1964) all the way through to generation X (1965-1981) continuously call out millennial’s for being lazy, entitled, narcissistic and at times know-it-all’s when it was generations before that set the stage for the present? As I stated above you cannot group everyone together, I don’t. I personally believe the older millennial’s not only approach life differently than the younger millennial’s but also work in a distinct manner. This may be due to a lot of factors, one being that 1981-1985 is closer to the generation x group and therefore are influenced to a higher degree from them or it could just be they think with both sides. It’s all subjective. One thing is for sure, millennial’s are continuously being dragged through the trenches.

Thanks to the generations prior, millennial’s are so far the largest, best educated and most diverse generation in history. This means nothing as with almost every generation, there is a hefty unemployment rate and according to the US census data 40% of millennial’s are at the highest level. Hence why millennial’s have had to start their own businesses and figure out other sources of income that are not corporate based. Which of course brings on high risk of stress and anxiety soaring to an all time high for this bracket that occurs in one of five individuals. Millennial’s are also swimming in college debt and earning degrees that they do not use (meaning they got them only because of pressure from their families or they can’t find a job with the degree they earned or something inbetween). Millennial’s aren’t entitled to success, they are obsessed with it, because there is no other choice, how else is survival in this world supposed to happen? Being tired of talking or hearing about how to make it and taking a stance on actually making it to a point in life where it feels good just to be here and enjoy what was worked for. So millennial’s aren’t lazy, they are more driven than generations prior due to the circumstances within their individual lives. Millennial’s have not only created opportunities for all generations within housing, technology, health, fashion, food, music, media and creative spaces, but they have helped evolve what was handed down to them.

Not every millennial is fixated on sharing with the world their latest sneakers, nonstop play by play of their days, hair color or showing of their bodies on social media. Yes, it is absolutely annoying and I try my best not to judge, but it does get hard when it’s overdone. But it’s just as aggravating when prior generations are oversharing pics of their grandchildren, or the latest tomatoes that are blooming in their gardens or pics of paint colors in their homes. You see either way we are all annoyed with each other for things that are out of our individual control. No generation is better in any sense than the other. Each generation prior to and after millennial’s have their faults, so let’s stop acting as if millennial’s are the downfall of all humanity. If you have an issue with an entire group of people within a 15 year bracket, then you are part of the problem. I could go on endlessly on this issue, as I feel as if I discuss it daily with my family and friends, but I’m a short story writer…not a novelist.

Let’s discuss further. I’d love to hear what you all have to say on this matter.

Millennial’s help to figure out a balance in how life should move forward. Let’s not judge, but discuss.