If you moderate your diet, but never exercise will that bring you the best physical version of yourself? I'm not an expert, but I highly doubt it. If you don't water your in-home plants will they grow? The answer is no. Marriage in my personal opinion requires work on self from the mental, spiritual, physical, emotional and intellectual parts of you as well as from your spouse. You have to water your relationship to nourish it.
Orande and I just came back from a beautiful week in Cozumel celebrating our 2nd wedding anniversary. On vacations we like to unplug from the world, which means no contacting people outside of a quick check in with family to let them know we are safe and no social media. By doing this it allows us to focus only on us, it is not something we do only on vacations, but we incorporate this within our marriage often. Love and marriage is hard work, it requires more energy than your 9 to 5, but it's the most rewarding. There is no marriage we model ours off of, as there is no perfect example and no perfect people. We learn to make our own rules and find out what works best for us. Marriage is not made for the faint of heart. There will be ups and downs, smiles and frowns, tears and happiness and heartache and hard love. But if you can't imagine going through any of those things without your significant other then it is all worth it. Your love for each other will persevere and flourish with your continuous effort.
I was told by someone I trust that him and I together are more powerful than either of us can imagine and I truly believe that. I'm thankful and blessed that we are in this thing called life together.
Should I have warned you that this post would be sentimental? If I did where would the suspense have been?! Share what works for you in your relationship in the comments, would love to hear!
This is us on our wedding day walking into our lives.