Over a year ago, my friend Leia and I told each other about our goals. She loves music and is working on her production and song writing skills- basically she’s about to make lots of noise in the heavily male dominated music production world. My focus of course is writing and lots of it in all mediums. I set a calendar reminder for Monday’s at 8pm, to check in with each other. Accountability is important and we encourage one another to be our best.
As with any alarm you look at it and either get up to do your task, hit snooze or ignore completely. At first Leia and I were on it every week, making sure the other was on their game. Unfortunately, a couple months in we both would see the pop up on our phones and pray that the other wouldn’t ask. Slowly but surely we got back on track and in the midst of us dodging the alert, we were continuously working towards our goals. So why did we avoid the reminder but still do the work? I think it’s partially due to our drive to show and prove and the rest is from guilt. The guilt stems from knowing we were slacking with checking on each other and worried that we weren’t staying on top of things like we agreed...although the latter clearly wasn’t the case.
As of yesterday, we are still working hard and I’m so proud to say that Leia is almost done with her demo (which I can’t wait to hear) and I’m in the middle of a few writing projects I’m happy about. I love that her and I stay on top of each other, it’s important to me- to the both of us. I haven’t always held myself accountable for various areas in my life, but as you grow and surround yourself with the right people you’re able to focus. Make sure you’re circle is inclusive of only positive, spiritual, loving people who want you to win. We all fall short at times (maybe many) and don’t always have 100% to give in every situation, so make sure you have a person/s who can keep you in check outside of yourself.