Be Kind. Consign.

Raise your hand if you’ve ever been to a consignment shop. Great, I hope the majority of you have your arms up. Now raise your hand if you’ve sold items to a consignment shop (this is strictly about selling, not buying- I love shopping in them too). If your hand isn’t raised, then you’re missing out on a lucrative opportunity. I urge you to go through your closet today, pick out items you haven’t worn in years but are still relevant to current fashion trends and in good condition. Now there is a science to this and although I have been selling clothing for many years, I continue to learn and if any of you have smart tips please leave in the comments below. I have been blessed enough to work for luxury brands (and have friends that do and put me on the sample sale lists) that consignment shops are eager to buy. I also sell many really cool pieces from fast fashion brands such as Zara or H&M that most people wouldn’t necessarily take a second look at, and you’d have no idea they were from that brand (aka it’s good to be fashion eccentric and know the potential of an item). But honestly as long as you have transitional clothing/accessories/shoes in good condition it’s an easy sell. One of the many keys I’ve learned is to negotiate- don’t let them downplay your clothing. You may know how much it’s worth and they may know as well, but you also should have done your homework on the consignment shop of your choice and know what’s currently selling in store. Most shops give you a 60/40 deal, but I’ve found a few that do 50/50 and then there are those who really take advantage by offering a 70/30 (stay away from those, you’re better off selling on your own to eBay, Tradesy, ThredUp or another competing site). As a born and raised New Yorker, it’s in my blood to be a master negotiator and I usually win or at least come to a common ground on price with the other person. You must be your own advocate because they don’t care about you at all or what personal monetary goals you may want to reach, they just want your items in their store. 

Another gem, if you decide to sell in a store rather than listing on a website- GO EARLY. When I say early I mean if the store opens at 10am, you be there at 9:50am waiting for the associates to open the doors. You may have 10 items, but the one person in front of you who got there first will have 246 and by the time it’s your turn the buyer is so over their day they absolutely will not have the patience to go through your stuff with the respect it deserves. Unless you’re dealing with a high end consignment shop, the buyers in these stores are between the ages of 19-26, which means they give zero f+*!# about your 10 items after they had to drudge up all of their limited amount of patience and energy dealing with Karen and her closet clean out. So suck it up, put a smile on your face and compliment them, people love compliments. Find a commonality that you can talk to them about as they go through your items, this will help ease them back into a happier mood. It won’t be hard, there is usually something easy you can speak on whether it’s the weather, the various people that shop in the store, music or maybe they have on a cool accessory that looks similar to something you have. I don’t know, make it up and have fun with it- just make sure you’re genuine with what you say. Now this doesn’t mean they’ll immediately give you what your items are worth, but they will be more open to negotiations and that’s what you want- that window to work on your haggling skills. Karen may have pissed them off with her moth smelling clothes in which they were only able to buy 3 out of all of her 246 items, but now you’re standing in front of them to show what quality clothing looks like and to bring them back to focus. 

So I leave you with 4 things when selling your clothing:

1. Research the brick and mortar consignment shops that you choose to sell to. Go on their websites, most of the information of what they are looking for currently is listed, if not call them. 

2. Go through your clothing thoroughly before you go. Put yourself in their position, if you don’t think it’s worth buying, neither will they. Also, have a price in mind you would like each item to sell for, therefore if they say a low number you can counter with a better one. 

3. Put a damn smile on your face. Even if you’re not in a good mood, act like it! The buyers at these stores feed off of your energy. If it isn’t good, they smell it. 

4. Don’t settle. If you don’t like their prices, you don’t have to sell to them. Take your clothing elsewhere, whether to another shop or do the extra work and find a website you would like to sell on. There’s tons of them (I listed a few earlier).

Now, I’ve given you my opinion, what's yours? Share your insight/experiences on selling to consignment shops in the comments. Also which stores or sites are some of your favorites. I love thrifting, and it's also good for the earth- so let's consciously do more of it.

Most will not look like this, but this one is merchandesied “ok”.

Active Listening

The art of listening is work. It needs to be nurtured and honed by the people engaging in the activity. At times we all have not given our full attention to those we have conversations with, whether it be a family member, friend, co-worker, your mail person, etc. For me, this is something I’ve had to consciously work on for years and still it’s a work in progress, not because I don’t care what’s coming out of the mouth of whom is in conversation with me, but because my mind is busy. I can be in the middle of conversing with someone and have 20 other thoughts in the midst of it. Some of it is nonsense like, “do I need to get more apples from the store?” or it could be a worthwhile thought “(insert friend name) is really good at design, maybe xyz can use their services to work on their website layout.” Honestly random thoughts pop in and out and I have a hard time just kicking them away, but like I said it’s a work in progress and I’ve gotten much better- yoga and meditation are constants.

One thing I can say for myself is that I do not “fake listen” aka saying “mmm” or “ok, wow” to someone while they are speaking just to pretend I’m all there. Ok ok, I’ve done it a few times, only because I wasn’t a fan of the person talking. But overall it’s not good to do this. Neither is a person asking you a question and then answering it for you before you open your mouth. For instance “Hey, how’s it going, good?”, mind you the other person didn’t even have the opportunity to answer and now may feel obliged to agree it’s going good when it actually may not be how they feel- give them a beat. We must be patient enough to wait a few seconds for the other person to answer because if you don’t it comes off as if you don’t care or have the capacity to listen to their response- since you already answered it for them.

So, as we are in the early days of 2019, let’s retire “fake listening” and “automated responses” and work on being more present in the present. Put your phone down, look into the persons eyes or face (if you have a hard time with eye contact), stop scrolling if it’s a phone conversation and be conscious of the thoughts that come into your mind. Don’t get angry at these thoughts, just kindly push them aside for the moment. There are many aspects of ourselves that will be in workshop for the rest of our lives, the least we can do is take each opportunity given to be better than the last. In what ways will you be practicing active listening? Also, what are some of the thoughts that pop into your head? Share and let’s discuss, I promise I’ll be in the moment of listening.

Enough said...